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    • Meeting an objective is easier than you think; here are 5 simple and ingenious strategies that will help you stay on the right track to accomplish your goals.

    5 hacks that will help you achieve all your goals / 

    The idea of the “mirror stage” is one of the most accurate contributions Jacques Lacan made to the understanding of human nature, that moment during our subjective development when we recognise a reflection to be our reflection but without fully understanding it: there in the mirror, in our mother’s or brother’s gaze, we see ourselves, but we are unable to understand this fully, instead, it is afterwards, through an imprecise, fragmentary reconstruction that we grasp the notion. “Thus, the subject always has an anticipatory relationship with their own realisation,” said the French psychoanalyst during The Neurotic’s Individual Myth conference.   

    This reality, with its different hues, is frequently reproduced in our own projects. It is quite common, that while we lose ourselves in our imagination, we conceive these goals as something we have already achieved, and this impression mines our will and eventually moves us to give up. Who actually pursues something they believe has already been achieved?

    We now share with you 5 simple tricks that will allow you to hack those vicious thoughts and, easily, reach your goals that will change your life according to your desires.

     

    1. Before you make yourself do something, listen to your secret motives

    The demands others impose on you are not necessarily your own, and sometimes we seek something because we have been driven in that direction by our environment, and not because we truly want it. Before you do something, ask yourself if you really want it, and why you want it. Analyse your motivations odds are that, during this exploration, you will find true motivations that will guide you to reachable goals, in sync with yourself.

     

    2. Generate positive “snow balls”

    The “snowball” effect is one of the easiest and greatest strategies that will enable you to make real changes in your life. These do not happen overnight, which is why we must strive to accomplish them gradually, through small but significant changes. One of the main advantages of this strategy is that our brain reconfigures itself to regularly increase the degree of exigency. In this way, for example, if you set out to eat healthily, instead of starting a rigorous and Spartan diet (which you will probably betray on your second or third day), begin by modifying a single meal, or by substituting the sweets you’re used to eating with a healthy snack.

     

    3. Program your habits, not your effort

    Even if one of the pillars of Western thought is the sophrosyne (the “yes” controller) and even if nowadays we insist that it can be exercised and tamed, a slightly less sizeable alternative can help us focus on our habits before we focus on the ontology implied by them. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives,” states Annie Dillard, which means that if we want to change our reality, we must pay attention to our everyday existence, to our everyday actions, since they contain the opportunity to transform them. Reflect less on your love for discipline and self-control, and in instead turn your attention, for example, towards what you do when you wake up in the morning or the things that distract you at work.

     

    4. Keep track of your achievements

    Some say that if we try something new with someone who is sharing the challenge with us makes the task that much easier. The most common example is physical exercise: if we’re not used to doing it, going for a jog in the mornings or going to the gym every day is easier when we have someone who is willing to do it with us. Perhaps this is due to the agreement that binds us; also, in the best of cases, our companion becomes the witness to our constant achievements.

    But even if we lack said company it still is possible to benefit from this exchange. For example, keeping track of the number of kilometres we’ve run and studying the numbers twice a week reminds us of our improvements. We can even use an automatic email service (like memotome) and program messages that remind us that, after all, we are already on the path to change.

     

    5. Be happy now, not later

    Last but not least, try to avoid the “happiness comes later” frame of mind; this implies that you must recognise the things that make you unhappy and have the eloquence to accept them before you can actually decide to change. You will not be happy if you decide to eat healthily if you are not happy already. That anticipatory moment, which Lacan spoke of, is the cause of the “profound insufficiency” that characterises subjectivity, the “original tear”: we consider that healing is part of a hypothetical future without realising that achievements are made in the present moment. 

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