The fear of success and failure are two sides of the same coin.
Live your dream: nobody can live it for you /
The people who are living their dreams are the people that know that if it’s gonna happen it’s up to them.
We can all recall Martin Luther King’s ‘I Have a Dream’ speech. This is one of the most powerful modern political speeches, and it is partly because of it that the notion of the dream has come to embody the horizon where reality can be changed. This has nothing to do with ‘daydreaming’, which some consider are mere distractions, nor is it related with the make believe, or with a false and fashionable optimism: this means building a new vision of our life and teaching us to live in sync with it.
The agents of change, rebels and dreamers from different periods of time have taught us the different paths that enable us to create these visions, but they cannot make us live them. Religious leaders like Jesus or Buddha, and political thinkers like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, or pacifist icons like Gandhi or John Lennon are unable to make us change the way we live if we do not live in accordance to our own vision: dreamers can teach us to dream, but nobody can dream another person’s dream.
This is the most wonderful aspect of dreams: they are non-transferrable.
We can share our dreams with others, our vision, but we cannot make anybody experience them in the flesh. We have to live this vision so that others can learn to live their dream on their own.
There are two basic fears that prevent us from living our dreams: the fear of failure and the fear of success.
The fear of success implies that our vision remains subordinate to the approval of those who surround us. That our internal laws still require permission from others to do what we truly desire, to follow our dreams, give in to them, and simply let ourselves go. This is also the fear of the unknown: nobody can know what the future holds; nobody knows what the day after tomorrow will bring. But failure can be tamed if we learn how to hack it: we can understand how it works and intervene in its development.
Failure is a choice: our vision can encounter setbacks, it can run into obstacles, delays or oppositions; but, if our dream is strong enough, our vision will learn to feed and learn from these delays, transforming them into time well-spent; the obstacles can become powerful allies; oppositions can teach us to refine and discover our weaknesses. We only fail when we give up on our dream, and giving up on our dream is a choice we make with every passing moment.
The fear of success is the counterpart of this same choice: success is not a socially programmed goal, nor is a series of parameters we have to reach. Our success can only be measured on our own terms, the terms of our vision. We are probably thinking: ok, I will follow my dream, but what will I do when I get there? There is no way of knowing, because, as we mentioned earlier, the future is always changing and undiscovered. But if our vision is strong and ample enough, it will bring us much more than mere personal satisfaction: it will continue to motivate us and it will suggest new routes, it will lead us to new places and people, it will be our life and our life will be our dream.
Perhaps in order to follow our vision or our dream, the only thing we have to do, is keep the following in mind: fully surrendering ourselves to a dream implies giving a leap of faith over and over again, every single day of our lives. This is not a choice we make in a single moment; this implies making decisions that are congruent with our dreams, with that vision, no matter what. Being congruent is a choice that supports itself, even when everything around us changes.Tagged: dreams, inspiration, Warriors & Rebels